An ominous trend is spreading across the internet and no one is talking about the dark, dirty and dangerous side to online dating. Online dating sites invite users to register, build a profile and share with the online community who they are and what their “perfect” love match would be. Now on the surface this methodology seems sound…tell your future lover who you are, share with potential suitors all of your personal traits, open up and tell all of the potential daters out there your most intimate dreams and desires…that’s how you find the perfect dating match right? Wrong! Spaths are having a feeding frenzy online taking their pick of their potential perfect mates victims…it’s like shooting fish in a twenty gallon barrel…easy pickins. No longer does the Spath have to interview their victim or take days or weeks to extract information that they can use to exploit later. No, today all the Spath has to do is read the “profile” and “what do you want in your mate” areas of the hundreds of thousands of potential victims online. Yes, technology has helped people connect online, but the hidden dark side is that the same connections now allow Spaths to multiply incrementally their reach…instead of being able to harm tens and Spath could have hundreds, thousands of victims…the math is staggering to think about. Of course the online dating companies are looking out for our collective welfare…Not! There are minimal disclaimers and very limited capabilities for users to shield themselves from Spath predators on these online dating sites. In fact what is evolving as we speak is a new paradigm for the Spath dynamic…the evolving online dating scene is creating a new bred…Super Spaths…technology savvy, leveraging the weaknesses of the systems, downloading personal information from thousands of online dating profiles to build their catalogs of potential victims. Using technology to juggle 10 times the number of victims at one time…multiple cell phones, two or three computers, hundreds of separate email addresses, many fake Facebook and Twitter profiles. All to deceive, lure in and take advantage of their victims. The worst part is that the technology now allows the Spath to hide behind the cyberspace wall…they can prey on hundreds and thousands of victims…anonymously with fake identities and minimal risk of being exposed…Scary! As we always say, knowledge is power and the key to protecting ourselves. We do not recommend online dating unless you can background screen the person first before meeting them offline, and even then there is still significant risk. Please talk to your loved ones, friends and acquaintances who are dating online…warn them about the significant risks from Spaths both female and male…advise them to remove personal information out of their profiles that would make it easy for Spaths to target them (hopes, dreams, likes, dislikes, perfect mate/spouse). Thank you for sharing the knowledge...please tell a friend or relative who is or has been affected by a Spath about our page and invite them to join in the dialog, catharsis and supportive environment we have here. Stay Blessed and Stay Safe
Interesting....no wonder my ex has met both; wife # 2 and wife # 3 on the dating sites. Then he quickly marries them before they even know what is going on. Stupid women, and horrible ex. People please be aware of them. I wish we had a website where we could post pictures of the Spath in our life so others would know to stay away from them
ReplyDeleteCan always start your website for just that. Modern tech makes that easy to do.
DeleteIt would be wonderful if the dating sites themselves would do a better job at self-monitoring. Certainly they have access to the necessary technology which could detect sociopathic/narcissist tendencies with an algorithm, but, to do so would mean losing millions in revenue.
ReplyDeleteAmen! Before my x left me (the second time), I found his profile on one of those dating sites. "Old fashioned gentleman who still believes in opening the car door for her and taking out the trash" ... MY FOOT! As I was reading that, there was a pile of trash bags sitting in the garage that I'd been asking him to take out for days! Liar, liar, pants on fire! But it worked for him. Not but a week or so later, he was packing up his crap and moving out of my house, in with someone else. They're still together, and he pretends like they're perfectly happy, but I know the truth. You couldn't pay me a persnillion dollars to trade places with her!!
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