Friday, March 16, 2012

He Knows You Must Never Be Heard From Again ~ Hence The Preemptive Strike




Do you really want to avenge your Sociopath?!


All you need is this one answer …
 
Read this thoroughly. By the time you reach the end, you will hopefully realize that “avenge” is the worst thing you can do … don’t even consider it.  Your best option can be summed-up very briefly — leave town.
If anyone else encourages you to take on the sociopath, supporting you by saying you can do it — distance yourself from him or her, too.  Don’t argue, just distance. The risk you’d be incurring is far beyond whatever solace you think you’d gain.  
You do not want to know how evil and vindictive a sociopath can get if you present yourself as a risk to them.  It will begin faster than you can back down. Whether they are family, or close friends you’ve had your entire life … they have no limits, whatsoever.  Nothing will keep them from using anything at their disposal.
They know many ways to destroy you — ways that would prove unimaginable. And there’s just one way for you to find out — go ahead and take them on.  It will be the biggest regret of your lifetime.
By then, you’ll begin to believe you never knew this person, because as a sociopath, you never did — it was only their persona. Trust me on this: your life will never be the same. If you are indeed dealing with a sociopath, you must place your loved ones as the top priority for their safety and welfare, as well as your own.
If you decide not to believe me or anyone else who’s experienced what it’s like to be targeted, you should have a safe haven in place that the sociopath has no clues to its location and will completely lose you. Then, leave town.
Please, listen to us, read the comments written by the site’s visitors, those who have been victimized. They’ve been through it all, as I have. Take it from those of us who have wished someone could have warned us like we are trying to warn you — keep walking, and do not look back.
And NEVER EVER  go back.


If you are like the majority, you can not believe what you just read; and hence, you seriously doubt the legitimacy of it. We were no different. I’ve included two additional scenarios.
I do hope, for your sake, that one will succeed where the others didn’t. I’m certainly not writing this for my health.

Scenario #1
To begin this virtual encounter, let’s make you invincible and intimidating —that will make it super tough for you to lose, right?  
WRONG: It’ll give you absolutely no advantage …
but please play along, OK?
  
At six-foot-five, you were the all-star linebacker right up through college … no one in their right mind messed with you. So why on earth would you just stand by and allow this petite little “lady” to take manipulate you, use you, and endlessly lie to you. You don’t see any of it, do you?!
Don’t you see the RED FLAGS? You’re being played a fool, and my gut tells me she’s not playing any innocent courting game with you, either. I’ve seen her when you haven’t, my friend, and that tiny little gal scares me. I see two different people in that body, and they don’t seem to know each other. That’s how she’s got you suckered. Wake up, man! Get your head out of those clouds, or you’ll never get it back the same … never.
Those who know how evil a malicious sociopath can be, are usually the ones who have already been wounded for life. Don’t allow others to think for you. Face value is no-value. Never drop your guard. The most successful sociopaths have mastered their skills, blend into the party as the most likable people around, and are there for a specific purpose. Whatever it is, they’ll accomplish it.
Have you determined you’re in a place that you need to get out of?
Be very careful …

Avenge Analysis A
Do you have an escape plan in the works?
Have you considered all the possible ramifications? Like these? …
Have you considered you will be facing someone who has nolimitations in how they plan to completely destroy you? That the harder you try to take them down, the harder you, yourself, will fall? Can you imagine someone who will let nothing get in their way … not one thing, and all without a hint of remorse?
Will there be a trial, such as a divorce? Do you believe you’ll have an advantage because you carry all the truth and you’ll be in a court room? To them, taking the stand under oath is simply showtime. They know how to manipulate the court system, and that’s one of their most efficient weapons against you.
They believe they have nothing to lose, because, so far, they’ve never lost. You are just another in a long line of victims that will be used for as long as you offer value, and then be discarded. If they think you may be a threat someday, based on what you learned, they won’t let you go without destroying you first.
This is how they run their lives every day. What they can do to you is beyond anything you’ve ever considered. Just remember that this person is saving their most evil attack for you when you least expect it.
The sooner you realize what you are truly up against, the better chance you’ll have to avoid the evil they are ready to tear you down with. And if the threat comes from someone you had once considered a close friend, a family member, or an ex-lover (married or not) … don’t expect favors because of those connections … just the opposite.
From my experience, there’s a good chance those connections will play against you. The sooner you realize that it was all a malicious farce, it was entirely faked, and that you never really knew the person other than what they acted out for you … the sooner you accept that true reality, that’s when you will see your fate.
You didn’t know this, but you were always expendable and disposable. Their daily lives are spent focused on controlling you and others. As soon as you skip all the other exercises above and focus on your escape plan, you’ll have the best chance to avoid the shocking evil that this vile individual has prepared to unload upon you.
You cannot allow it to begin, or it will never stop. You must be pro-active now. If you believe that your situation could turn violent, or already has, your number ONE responsibility is YOU. Keep you and your loved ones safe. That may mean you will need to move away … be prepared.
So, first-things-first — have you completed your escape strategy?
 

Avenge Analysis B
Do you still believe the danger is over-blown?
If after reading the above scenario, you are still not convinced of the danger posed by a harmless-looking sociopath, the following may add some credence. Below is a much more candid and extreme scenario, though still a very realistic possibility of the victim’s risks. The contributing factors would include the sociopath’s own instability, his history of unknown illegal and immoral activities, and how the sociopath sees you within his own risk comfort level.
Just ask yourself if you’d want to risk pissing off someone who is void of any feelings, someone who has never experienced even the slightest sense of remorse, regret or shame for the extremely malicious, and sometimes violent attacks he has unleashed upon others. Whether his fears about you can be justified, or are completely fueled by paranoia, it’s all the same to him. He now considers you the biggest risk to his future; hence, you just became #1 on his “to-do” list.
Do you really want to go there?
No matter who you are, how powerful you are, what profession you’re in, how smart you think you are, how many friends you have, no matter what you think or what anyone tells you, the odds are entirely against your success.
A sociopath has no limits, whatsoever. Additionally, this sociopath has an enormous amount of fabricated deception and bad deeds to protect from his history. You know virtually nothing about what else he’s done. Yet, your own risk level is directly proportionate to the other bad deeds he’s perpetrated — so you do not even have a hint as to what your risk level is.  Does “drive by” take on a different meaning here?
What he knows all too well, yet you don’t have a clue of, is his own history of bad deeds. Getting your vindication would be the same as he being completely exposed as a sociopath … he’ll never let that happen; he can’t let it happen if he wants to live freely.
Obviously, exposure would not be anything this sociopath would easily accept. Chances are, you would have been reported missing some time ago, and your sociopath would be on to other projects. His public persona is gold to him. He must make sure it stays in place, and keeps that shine.
You have become a real threat to his warped sanctity.
If he gets clued-in that you’re planning something, he will not wait to go on the defensive. He knows what is at risk — something you don’t — and he’ll begin with, what I call, offensive-revenge.
Your success would lead to destroying his life, and potentially incarceration. Depending on what would be revealed about his past, such as white-collar crimes, he would have everything to lose. So there’s another thing he knows quite well, but you don’t have a clue — the gravity of his past deeds.
What would happen to him if you were successful in your vindication and exposure?  If guilty of white-collar crimes, he could theoretically be sentenced to multiple prison terms, essentially making it a life sentence, similar to how Bernard Madoff will finish the rest of his life. That nice little old man, Bernie Madoff, was able to convince investors — from elderly widows, to large international investment firms — to hand over huge amounts of investment capital, to the tune of US$50,000,000,000.00 (fifty billion dollars) to one little old man, who spent it freely on a lavish lifestyle with his wife. He’d party with those he stole from. He never showed remorse.
Do not take this lightly.
You will be risking emotional suicide, if not more. There is nothing I can give you as a comparison, because there is truly nothing that even comes close to the utter determination of success, the elimination of any obstacles, his maliciously-evil drive for offensive-revenge, his complete lack of any feelings as to how he will destroy you, what he will do to accomplish it, and how it will leave you.
 
When looking at your sociopath, all you see is another person. What you will never see is that person’s history. Their history is like a hostility throttle. Depending on what they’ve gotten away with in the past determines how they will respond to an attempted exposure now.


No matter who you are, how powerful you are, what profession you’re in, how smart you think you are, how many friends you think you have … no matter what you think you’ve got that no one else has, try to understand the risk is too high to expose, or take on a sociopath or psychopath.
Try to accept that your best chance of maintaining your quality of life is to forget it and move on. The odds are entirely against you.*
It’s what you don’t know.
This sociopath used you, and your innocent actions resulted in someone losing something (the who and what are not important here). It was by complete chance that you discovered the sham. The sociopath is currently unaware that you know.
You don’t want to see it happen to anyone else. From your good, honest upbringing, you want to expose this guy and make him pay for damages, so as to make sure he won’t do it again.
You believe in accountibility.
Very admirable.
Your sociopath first recognized his outwardly differences from most other people about 30 years ago. He’s intelligent, keenly attentive, shrewd, cunning, and manipulative. His experience has raised him to a level that woud be considered a master at what he does.
And what he does is only to benefit himself at the cost of others. Without the normal feelings of remorse and guilt, or any other typical human emotion, he has always slept well at night. What he did to you is a regular, almost daily offensive deed in this guy’s life. It’s considered small stuff. Some of his disciples actually help him with the small stuff. One can say that the small stuff pays the utilities.
The Other Stuff.
But only your sociopath, himself, knows about the other stuff … the other stuff is actully the large stuff. He maintains complete control because of the risks. The large stuff falls under corporate white-collar crime. The large stuff is criminal.
What the sociopath knows extremely well are the details of the large stuff and the legal gravity they represent.
You are only aware of the one little thing he used you for, and that’s what you want him to pay for.
The sociopath has long known that getting busted for all those unsolved crimes would just about guarantee incarceration for the rest of his life.
What level of risk did you just move yourself into?
In the eyes of the sociopath, getting your vindication could very easily result in his full exposure, meaning that the Law would be provided enough evidence to match your sociopath up to an unknown number of unsolved crimes. He’ll never let that happen; if he wants to live freely, he can’t let it happen.
He knows he must act fast, with something I call “offensive-revenge.” He does not know if you will act, but out of paranoia, he assumes you will. He’s never looked at a risk like this before, but as he learned long ago, whatever needs to get done, simply needs to get done. That’s all the justification required.
He knows you must never be heard from again. (countryofliars.com)

20 comments:

  1. As much as you may want to avenge your sociopath, or exact revenge, it isn't worth your time or your sanity. Do you really want to lock horns with evil for an ongoing battle that can't be won? The best thing you can do for yourself is accept "things happen for a reason" and move forward knowing "this too shall pass." When you're ready, willing, and able, one of the best things you can do is to join in making others aware of the existence of sociopaths by sharing your experience and the subtle signs to watch for.

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  2. I wish I would have had this knowledge before I took on my exN, I am now in the middle of his revenge at it's worst. Every interaction is an opportunity for him to attack and he takes it in stride. Openly lying when he knows I can prove otherwise, or does not know and thinks I'm just stupid and do not protect myself. While I can prove the lies and keep myself and our child safe. He twists and turns everything and I always stay on my toes with no respite. Instead of being emotionally well and stable, I am constantly crying, having anxiety issues and can not enjoy my life. Now I am ready to block all ways he can attack and keep my interactions business like and not respond to his attacks, hoping he will get bored and finally think I am no longer out to expose what he is.........Lets hope it works!

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  3. Hi 'the target' - how awful for you. With my ex-N I filed a report with the police (unbeknownst to him and his sycophants/disciples) - so perhaps this is something you can do? Hand in every piece of documented evidence you have about him too. You are most likely suffering from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder too and would suggest you seek therapy. This too will help if the police have a medical record on you. I did all of this and although I am still scared of my ex N/Sociopath, I have told the police and so now they are aware of his anti-social behaviour and lies! I wish you all of the very best of luck. Sara

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  5. I stupidly wanted to help my ex sociopathic friend - but believe me I never want to go there again. I nearly ended up jumping off a bridge as he had me so cornered emotionally. All this without any real connection just extreme highs and lows. And I suffered ptsd over my earlier memories of him. 'Just' an unhealthy attraction to a salesman in the same way that a chocolate bar satisfies your initial craving but not your real hunger

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  6. When I recognized, that something is wrong with this aquaintance, I left with an excuse. Later I realized that what was wrong is sociopathy. Never heard before. It is an ICD-classified disease.
    Nothing really bad had happened, but I felt a life threatening POTENTIAL.
    It took me a year to find a personal viewpoint/attitude how to handle these people: Nicely, superficially, with caution, from distance.

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  7. What do I do if my socio/narc is a cop (in the city we live in) and we are in the middle of a high conflict divorce. Its seems as tho it is me against the whole police dept , the court, judges and my own lawyers...I am doing "no contact" but now he is going after the kids....he believes he is the law...threaten me & kids every chance he gets..I tried to get PPO it was denied...his girlfriend works at police dept too..

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  8. I for one am not going to let him get away for what he has done. The stress of actually being in almost caused me to starve to death, it can't get any worse than that emotionally, and the police believe my side of the story because they have the texts he sent me as well as other evidence.

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  9. Georgie, while I can wholly understand your desire/need to not let him "get away" with what he's done it's best that you try to use your energy to rebuild your life without him. Allow the legal system to work for you regarding any laws he may have broken but outside of that you must keep your focus on you and how to move forward. As the days, weeks and months pass you will find your need to get back at him will wain. Try to keep yourself busy with positive activities that will help keep your mind off him. Surrounding yourself with positive people is also a very good prescription for healing.

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  10. That is extremely good advice.

    The crimes you know about are only the tip of the iceberg.

    Exposing your psychopath risks the whole of it, which must be why they destroy anyone who threatens to expose them.

    So glad to have chanced upon this website after studying much of the work of Robert Hare, Vaknin, Gannon, Sheridan, Soll and many others. I have been trying to understand why no-contact is the best response, and am now at peace with the decision. Thank you for putting your message out there.

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  11. I was with a sociopath for three years. We had a child together. I don't really need to explain further in that. but after I left him a year ago, he's let more and more of his true colors show. Mainly behind closed doors to, you know, say I'm the crazy one. I always had an insatiable need to call him out when he lied. So I often did, unless I was too tired to deal with it (we had kept contact for coparenting purposes. ) a couple weeks ago, he tried to reconcile. I rejected him several times over the course of a few days. I've Damn near made myself crazy the last year researching, trying to pick apart his Brain just to know why. why did he do and continue to do the unimaginable, crazy shit he did? Well after rejecting him a few times, I called him out to his face. In a caring manner. Telling him he needs to get help for himself to help the children. I read several times not to expose a sociopath. I didn't head these warning because I wanted to prove to him and myself that I was strong. that I am in control now. He couldn't fool me and that I knew what he was. I had no desire to warn the world. I wanted to show him that he doesn't fool me and now that we both know what he is he should get help. It didn't work out that way. He took the news calmly and agreed his feelings were mimicked. He agreed to lying about everything down to his childhood memories. He admitted to manipulating and that he didn't feel anything genuine. Except with me. that I made him feel something. I told him that he only says that because it's what he thinks I want to hear. that it wouldn't work. And I still won't be with him. He remained calm but warned me not to 'dig too far' in to his brain or I wouldn't like the outcome.that I couldn't handle what would happen.
    He let it slide. for about half an hour. He played with our son (it was my time with him, he came over to bring me medicine) and then asked to speak to me I'm the other room.
    Then, he tried to kill me.
    He choked me until I almost blacked out.. He lost it. Said he'd shoot me. Forced me to kiss him. Said God sent him. That he'd take me to see God. that he loved me but he had to kill me.he slammed me into anything he could and through me. he broke y Windows,which cut an artery and laughed about it. He rubbed his blood all over me. He wanted me dead and was willing to. Do it himself.
    I share this story to show others just how dangerous this could be. I do not know if me telling him I knew and standing tall against him when he warned me to leave his brain alone. I don't know if it was because I wouldn't be with him cause he couldn't get what he wanted. We haven't been romantically involved in over a year.
    But I can tell you, even at the worst I'd seen him before he always continued to get worse. You do not know anything about a sociopath. Even if you think you do. But if what I did is what set him off enough to try to kill me, and he still wouldn't let me go when the cops came and threatened to taze him ( I called 911 in the middle of it after I got our son out. they heard most of it) a sociopath will stop at nothing to save himself. always. Even if that includes murder.
    If it was just me I wouldn't be as worried but our son saw some of this. So if you have a child, let alone a child with this person, do not call them out in any way. Because like we said.......
    You really can't stop them.
    You can't avenge yourself.
    You can't make them feel.
    You can't get through their wall.
    But you can get killed trying.

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    1. This is horrific... and exactly what I have been fantasising about saying/ doing. Mine has recently chosen a new target, I am terrified for them. The interim target has attempted to make contact... I have to decide weather or not to offer support or no. They are such monsters.

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    2. Anonymous I would stay clear of the "interim" target if she is still involved as he will hear about it only making things worse. I would not speak with other victims of your sociopath until they are fully out of his grasp/control. The no contact rule applies to them as well.

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  12. Please stop making sociopaths out to be super human. Believe me if you cut them they bleed just like everyone else. Make moves from a position of strength. Turn off your feelings and handle business. If you lose friends and family to their lies, its a blessing. Those people really didn't have your back anyway. You have to temporarily get as ruthless as they are. Sociopaths are pathological liars but strangely enough they never believe they are being lied to. Use that. Its not about being a "good" person. Its about being brave. A coward dies a thousand deaths, a brave man dies but one.

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    1. This right here!!!! This means so much to me. I took revenge on my ex before I learned the risks. Now, I'm frantically reading, worried about what he might be doing behind my back. So far, nothing that I know of. It's only been about a week, though. The first time I got victimized (many infractions throughout the relationship), I didn't know until his cheating was revealed. If he tries to victimize me again, I am not going to just lie down and take it. I don't feel that's the only option. There has to be ways to beat them at their own game or at least to stop their assault. They don't all win. They're not all invincible.

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  13. I took on a sociapath I exsposed him twice in 2 story's he has left me alone

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  14. I took on a sociapath I exsposed him twice in 2 story's he has left me alone

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  15. I exsposed my sociapath he has left me alone first time he has been exsposed were still married on paper I'm waiting to see if he will sign papers

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  16. This is good advice, but only to a point. What do you do when the sociopath realizes you are smart, thinks or knows he has been caught in his lies, conning, stealing, and/or manipulating, etc. and knows you are a good person? Congratulations, you kept your mouth shut and went no contact, and did not let on you knew, but HE thinks you know. You might as well have exposed him, because he assumes you did or will. What if you cannot leave town? What if you are not going to leave town? What if you are not going to give up your career, your life, your family, your extended family, your friends, your lifestyle/hobbies/sports, and everything else you spent a lifetime building? What if you are already well down the devaluation and annihilation continuum before you truly understand how bad this wolf in sheep's clothing is, and a lot of damage has already been done to your life? Is that your answer? Some broke, lying, thieving, ugly, pathetic weasel with nothing but lies gloms on to you through others, slips up and get's caught, and you just give up your entire life forever? What, you don't think it will follow you if you move away? Sometimes you will have to do something else. I yet to read anywhere, what else to do.

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  17. You could do as I did. Move in next door!
    I only did it because it was a great deal, but it seems to be driving her bat shit crazy.
    Oh well.

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