Recommended Reading
A large selection of books that deal with different types of abuse, giving insight and practical guidelines for dealing with it and achieving personal healing. Please click on the category of choice below:
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Dealing with Sociopaths
- The Sociopath Next Door, by Dr. Martha Stout
- Love Fraud , by Donna Andersen
- The Mask of Sanity, by Harvey Cleckley
- Without Conscience, Dr. Robert Hare
- In Sheep's Clothing, George K. Simon
- Snake's in Suits, Paul Babiak
- Emotional Vampires, Albert Bernstein
- Women Who Love Psychopaths, Sandra L. Brown
Dealing with narcissistic people
- Splitting: Protecting yourself while divorcing someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Randi Kreger
- People of the Lie: The Hope for Healing Human Evil - M. Scott Peck, 1981
- Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in Their Struggle for Self - Elan Golomb, Ph.D., 1992
- Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder - Paul T. Mason, M.S. & Randi Kreger, 1998
- Narcissism,: Denial of the True Self - Alexander Lowen, M.D.,1985 Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grownup's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents - Nina W. Brown
- Lost in the Mirror: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder - Richard A. Moskovitz, 1996
- The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis & Treatment - Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman
- Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisitied - Sam Vaknin, 1999
- Through the Looking Glass: Women & Borderline Personality Disorders - Dana Becker, 1997
- Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship - Christin Ann Lawson
- Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for those Who have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused - Steven Farmer,M.A.,M.F.C.C., 1989
- If You Had Controlling Parents: How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in the World - Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., 1998
- Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent: A Guide for Stressed-Out Children - Grace Lebow & Barbara Kane with Irwin Lebow, 1999
- Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life - Dr. Susan Forward with Craig Buck
- When Parents Love Too Much: What Happens When Parents Won't Let Go - Laurie Ashner & Mitch Meyerson, 1990
Dealing with setting and enforcing boundaries
- Boundaries: When to Say YES, When to Say NO, to Take Control of Your Life - Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend, 1982
- Boundaries and Realationships: Knowing, Protecting, and Enjoying the Self - Charlses L. Whitfield, 1993
- Co-Dependent, No More: How to Stop Controlling Others & Start Caring for Yourself - Melody Beattie, 1989
- Beyond Co-Dependency: And Getting Better All the Time - Melody Beattie, 1991
- Playing it by Heart: Taking Care of Yourself No Matter What - Melody Beattie, 1999
- An Adult Child's Guide to What's "Normal" - John Friel, Ph.D. & Linda Friel, M.A., 1990
- Drama Games: Techniques for Self-development - Tian Dayton, 1990
- Never Be Lied to Again: How to Get the Truth in 5 Minutes or Less in Any Conversation or Situation - David J. Lieberman, Ph.D., 1998
- The Rules - Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider, 1995
- What Smart Women Know: Wisdom for the Thinking Woman - Steven Carter & Julia Sokol, 1990
- Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ - Daniel Goleman,1995
Dealing with verbal abuse
- The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond - Patricia Evans, 1992,96
- Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out: On relationship and Recovery - Patricia Evans,1993
- The Secret of Overcoming Verbal Abuse: Getting Off the Emotional Roller Coaster and Regaining Control of Your Life - Albert Ellis Ph.D., Marcia Grad Powers, Albert Ellis, 2000
- Tongue Fu: How to Deflect, Disarm, and Defuse Any Verbal Conflict - Sam Horn, 1996
- The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense - Suzette Haden Elgin, 1980
- Speaking Your Mind in 101 Difficult Situations - Don Gabor.
Dealing with abusive relationships
- The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships - Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D., 1997
- In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People - George K. Simon, Jr., Ph.D.,1996
- Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You - Susan Forward, Ph.D. with Donna Frazier, 1997
- Lethal Lovers and Poisonous People: How to Protect Your Health From Relationships That Make You Sick,1992
- Toxic People: 10 Ways of Dealing With People Who Make Your Life Miserable - Lillian Glass, Ph.D.
- The Emotional Rape Syndrome: How to Survive and Avoid It! - Michael Povich, Ph.D.,
- Control Freaks: Who They Are and How to Stop Them From Running Your Life - Gerald W. Piaget, Ph.D.1991
- The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns & Reclaiming Yourself - Beverly Engel, 1992
- Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity - Helen Marx, Thomas Moore, Marie-France Hirigoyen, 2000
- Coping with Difficult People: ...In Business and in Life - Robert M. Bramson, Ph.D., 1981
- When Your Lover is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception & Betrayal - Susan Forward, 1999
- Men Who Hate Women & the Women Who Love Them - Jan Torres & Susan Forward, 1987
- Ditch That Jerk: Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Women - Pamela Jayne, 2000
- Nasty Men: How to Stop Being Hurt by Them Without Stooping to Their Level by Jay Carter, Dan Hochstatter, 1993
- Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us - Dr. Robert D. Hare, 1993
Dealing with toxic family relationships
- The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self (orig. Prisoners of Childhood) - Alice Miller,1981
- For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Childrearing and the Roots of Violence - Alice Miller, 1983,84,89
- Thou Shalt Not Be Aware: Society's Betrayal of the Child - Alice Miller.1984,86
- The Only Child: Being One, Loving One, Understanding One, Raising One - Darrell Sifford, 1990
- A Child Called "It": One Child's Courage to Survive - Dave Pelzer,1995
- Scapegoating in Families: Intergenerational Patterns of Physical & Emotional Abuse (hard to find) - Vimala Pillari, D.S.W., 1991
- Recognizing & Healing the Family Scapegoat: Avoid Carrying Childhood Roles Into Adulthood - Sharon A. Smith, 1995
- Black Sheep and Kissing Cousins: How Our Family Stories Shape Us - Elizabeth Stone, 1989
- Family Myths: Living Our Roles, Betraying Ourselves - Joyce Block, 1994
- The Secret Life of Families: Truth-Telling, Privacy, and Reconciliation in a Tell-All Sociaty - Evan Imber-Black, Ph.D., 1998
- Family Secrets: What You Don't Know CAN Hurt You - John Bradshaw, 1995
- Adult Children: Secrets of Dysfunctional Families - John C. Friel , John Friel, & Linda Friel, 1988
- Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child - John Bradshaw, 1990
- Unlocking the Secrets of your Childhood Memories - Dr. Kevin Leman & Randy Carlson, 1989
- How to be Your Own Best Friend - Mildred Newman & Bernard Derkowitz with Jean Owen, 1971
- Making Peace with Yourself: Turning Your Weaknesses Into Strengths - Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D. with Leonard Felder Ph.D., 1985
- Necessary Losses: The Loves, Illusions, Dependencies and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Grow - Judith Viorst,1986
- Unfinished Business: Pressure Points in the Lives of Women (on women & depression) - Maggie Scarf,1980
- I Ain't Well - But I Sure Am Better: Mutual Need Therapy - Jess Lair, Ph.D., 1975
- Emotional Clearing: A Self-Therapy Guide to Releasing Negative Feelings - John Ruskan, 1993
- You Can Heal Your Life - Louise L. Hay, 1987
Dealing with Problematic parents
- The Woman Who Gave Birth to Her Mother: Seven Stages of Chance in Women's Lives - Kim Chernin, 1998
- For Mothers of Difficult Daughters: How to Enrich and Repair the Bond in Adulthood - Dr. Charney Herst with Lynette Padwa, 1998
- When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life - Victoria Secunda,1990
- Mothers Who Drive Their Daughters Crazy : Ten Types of 'Impossible' Moms and How to Deal With Them - Edward M. Cohen, Susan Simon Cohen, Ed Cohen, 1997
- Goodbye Mother, Hello Woman: Reweaving the Daughter Mother Relationship - Marilyn Irwin Boynton & Mary Dell, 1995
- Mending the Broken Bough: Restoring the Promise of the Mother-Daughter Relationship - Barbara Zax, Stephan Poulter, 1998
- How to Manage Your Mother: Skills & Strategies to Improve Mother-Daughter Relationships - Arlene M. Matthews & Nancy W. Cocola, 1993
- Mama Drama: Making Peace With the One Woman Who Can Push Your Buttons, Make You Cry, & Drive You Crazy - Leslie Ayvazian, 1999
- Good Bye Mother, Hello Woman: Reweaving the Daughter-Mother Relationship - Marilyn I. Boynton & Mary Dell, 1995
- My Mother, My Self: The Daughter's Search for Identity - Nancy Friday,1977
- Women & Their Fathers: The Sexual & Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life - Victoria Secuanda, 1992
- Fathers & Daughters - William S, Appleton, M.D., 1981
- Where were you When I Needed You, Dad?: A Guide for Healing Your Father Wound - Jane M. Drew, 1992
- Divorcing a Parent: A sympathetic and practical guide for adult children who need to free themselves from an abusive relationship with a parent - Beverly Engel, M.F.C.C.,1990
- Cutting Loose: An Adult Guide to Coming to Terms with YOur Parents - Howard M. Halpern, Ph.D., 1976
Dealing with your healing and growth
- The Courage to Heal & Workbook: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse - Ellen Bass & Laura Davis, 1988,93,94
- Imperfect Control: Our Lifelong Struggles with Power and Surrender - Judith Viorst
- The Culture of Shame: Understanding & Easing Shame - Andrew P, Morrison,1996
- Dysinhibition Syndrome: How to Handle Anger & Rage in Your Child or Spouse - Rose Wood,1999
- Money Demons: Keep Them From Sabotaging Your Relationships - and Your Life - Dr. Susan Forward & Craig Buck,1994
- Shadow Syndromes: Recoginizing and Coping with the Hidden Psychological Disorders That Can Influence Your Behavior and Silently Determine the Course of Your Life - John J. Ratey, M.D. & Catherine Johnson, Ph.D., 1997
- The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You - Elaine N. Aron, 1996
- Soul Murder: The effects of chilhood abuse and deprivation - Leonard Shengold, M.D., 1989
- The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us From Violence - Gavin DeBecker, 1997
- Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples - Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., 1990
- Happiness Is A Serious Problem: A Human Nature Repair Manual - Dennis Prager, 1998
- The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships - Harriet G. Lerner, 1997
- The Dance of Deception: Pretending & Truth-Telling in Women's Lives - Harriet G. Lerner, 1997
- The Dance of Intimacey: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships - Harriet G. Lerner, 1997
Dealing with abuse as a Christian
- The writings of Cloude and Townsend
- The writings of Phillip Yancey
- The Divine Romance by Gene Edwards
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